A New Way to Think about Sitting Up Straight

Please sit up straight dear!
Does your child slump while sitting at the computer, watching TV, doing homework, reading or at the dinner table? Many parents are concerned about repeatedly having to remind a child to “Sit up straight!”. Parents may be further discouraged that only moments after the reminder their child often returns to the previous slumping position. Are children being disobedient? Are they not being conscientious? Why is sitting up so hard to do?

Our bodies are designed for movement and sustaining any single position can be challenging or fatiguing. To meet this challenge growing bodies benefit from a great deal of movement and a great variety of movement patterns usually found in structured practice of sports or “free play”. City kids may not have the opportunity to simply run outside and play at will as some of us had in the days of yore. Add to mix the fact that much of our new “entertainment” includes sedentary activities such as computer games and television and you have the potential for a lot of slumping!

But don’t fear, being young, children’s postural habits have not yet set and there are ways parents can give their children helpful guidance about finding and maintain a comfortable sitting position.

I hope that reading the following will give you new information and ideas to address this challenge. I recommend you read through the entire article and try the exercise below on your own before trying it with your child.

Exploration #1
Step #1) Please sit how you would sit if you were completely alone and no one was watching and you were not concerned in the least about sitting up straight. Please don’t be embarrassed if this is a slump – for the majority of people it is. Take a moment to tune into your sensory feedback – and notice whatever there is to notice about your position. How does it feel? What feels good about it? Is it a relief? Where is the relief? This could be called your “comfortable position”, your “collapsed position” or your “not straight” position.

Step # 2) Now “sit up straight”. Please try to notice and describe as specifically as possible what it is that you do to change your position. Some examples might be “I push my pelvis forward and then my whole body changes”. Or “I push my chest forward.” Or “I lift my chest up”. Or “I lift my face up”.

Step #3) Go back and forth between those two positions several times really paying very close attention to whatever efforts you apply and whichever movements you do to make yourself straight.

Note: If there is no difference between these two positions give me a call – it could be you’re in naturally great shape – or you may need some assistance in moving between the different states.

Step #4) Lastly, please notice what it feels like to stay in your straight position for several minutes. Is it easy to maintain this position? What do you have to do? Where do you feel it? Take a moment and jot down your sensory observations.

Many people go back and forth from a collapsed “c” shape curve to an overbracing pushed forward position. This is the “knee jerk reaction” described above. Is that what you do? If so, please try one of the following alternatives to “sitting up straight”.

Exploration #2
Step #5) Return to your “not straight” position.

Step #6) Take you hand and rub the muscles along the back of your neck. To further help the muscles along the back of the neck ease up – nod your head a tiny bit forward and backward, forward and backward. Now think of your head as a helium balloon and – in your imagination – see your whole head (the back as much as the front) floating up to the ceiling. As your head floats away – imagine your spine floating up after it. Imagine that your rib cage dangles off your spine and floats after them both. Your rib cage dangles and your waist falls back. At the same time that your head, spine and rib cage float away, you feel your feet moving into the floor and your sit bones moving down into the chair.

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Step #6) Imagine that the top of your head shines like a big flashlight. See the light shining toward the ceiling. Rub the muscles along the back of your neck to help them be easy. Keep seeing the light on the top of your head shine skyward. As you continue to shine out the top of you toward the sky, sense that another light shines out your navel to the wall behind you. So your whole torso is “shining up” out your head and your waist shines back toward the wall behind you. Without looking down, become aware of the contact of your pelvic bones with the seat of the chair. Think of light shining out your “sit” bones down out the seat of the
chair and down into the ground below you..

Whichever image you choose continue to think these thoughts for a minute or two and at the end of that time notice how you feel. Has your position changed? Are you sitting differently? Are you sitting more straight? How does it feel to sit straight? Could you comfortably maintain this position?

If thinking these thoughts has resulted in you sitting in a straighter more easeful position, you may be surprised. It may have been very different from how you normally would have straightened yourself up. It may have been much less physical work involving less pushing, heaving and bracing.

People often wonder how they feel so physically different with so little physical effort. The answer is that the exercises in spatial thinking tricked muscles that were overworking (and therefore pulling bones closer together - increasing the three curves in your spine) into letting go. You feel different because you have let go of some overworking patterns that caused imbalances and got in the way of the reflexes and the good postural mechanism! . It’s hard to think one thing and do the opposite.

Young children naturally can be engaged to think of the heads as flashlights or balloons. They can even be part of imaginary space personalities or other such creations. This kind of spatial thinking can be very fun and helpful for them.

--By Jane Tomkiewicz